“It’s just the way I am” you think. But this “I amness” is often the crux of our suffering because it leaves us reacting instead of relating It also leaves us lonely and isolated from the rest of ourselves and other people.

But we have the nightmare as a child, that awakes us with terror and fright that has our hearts racing…. and we are dismissed…”just a dream, go back to bed, its not real”. And the child is betrayed because the dream was real to her, and the need for comfort is visceral. The moment needs acknowledgement, a deep body felt empathetic understanding but what she got was dismissal that her feelings didn’t exist.